Why Do We Hold to Painful Emotions?

Isn't that a big question of existence? Honestly, why do we truly hold to painful emotions?


If we all know that anger, sadness and depression is not good for us, why do we still hold on to it? Why we cannot let go?


Can it be that we are not really sure how to do it?


Queen, have you ever even thought about these questions?


The question within questions.


To be honest, I do not think I have seen any blog post with so many questions popping from the start. But isn't that how most of us feel in our minds?


We constantly question.


And usually the one question just leads to another. We really like creating questions. Yet, not that much answering them. Particularly, if those questions includes subjects such as pain.



Sarcastically, most of the time, we are quite sure how to let the pain go.


There are, of course, some people that might lack knowledge of methods, and variations of these methods can truly be endless.


Yet, most often we all know how to let go – we just need to let go.


In fact, there is nothing magical about it, we just need not to let our anger, stress or sadness flourish, and at the same time - to shift our focus to other activities.


Notice here that I am not saying that you should run from emotions and do something else. I am saying "accept and do something else". That's a big difference.


Yet, often we still choose to be with our pain. Why do we choose to torture ourselves in this battle?



We actually hold to hate or any other "beneficial" emotion and feelings, cause true letting go means true acceptance. True letting go is the face-to-face meeting with your real pain.


When you truly let go, all you have left is that pure pain. The deepest one that caused it all.


You see, every unbeneficial emotion holds pain underneath. So, we are afraid to let it go, we are afraid to feel the full pain, even though we are already in pain. Doesn't that sound quite like ... a protection mechanism?


Well, that is how our precious brain works. Our brain’s main purpose is to protect us from stress. It tries to save us, so every time it feels unsafe – it turns on the alarm, making you avoid the activity you are participating in.